Are You A 'Greyromantic'? Here's How To Tell

Posted by Mittie Cheatwood on Saturday, May 18, 2024

Greyromantic is one type of attraction on the spectrum of being aromantic. If you find yourself wondering why your feelings of romance are infrequent, why they appear only under some conditions, or why they aren't as intense as your friend who can't seem to stop gushing over their new-found crush, you might be greyromantic. 

New York-based psychotherapist and coach Tarynn Dier told Women's Health that just because someone identifies as greyromantic, it doesn't mean they don't feel any sexual desire. "It also doesn't impact one's ability to have friendships, feel empathetic, or care for people. They will likely just relate to relationships in different, more alternative ways," she explained. 

As sex educator and author Lucie Fielding told Cosmopolitan, people often assume that romantic connection and sexual intimacy go hand-in-hand and that if this weren't the case, you should be having doubts about your relationship. But this simply isn't true. "Sometimes, the people we are romantically attracted to are different than the people we are sexually attracted to," said Fielding. 

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