What are the biggest pieces of advice you give to people who are on the opposite end of that, where they are struggling with their confidence?
The first part of confidence is the relationship you have with yourself. We need to be taught in school about leadership, individuality, confidence, your relationship with yourself, and how they all come together. I would love to do courses in a school one day. That's on my radar. I want to do retreats. I want to speak in schools because it needs to start at a young age.
I always start at the root, which is the relationship with yourself. Unfortunately, what's happened, and the reason that a lot of us are insecure or have low confidence, is we've allowed all of these outside elements to get inside of our mind, whether it's our family, whether it's society, whether it's people at school, your coworkers — you fill in the blank, but whatever it is, you are not having your own thoughts.
Oftentimes, if you look in the mirror and you're like, "I'm so fat," or "I hate myself," it's not really how you feel about yourself. It's this ideology that you've gathered from magazines, TV, your parents, and things that have been passed down to you, whatever the case may be. I always implore people to start by stripping themselves from everything. To me, what that looks like is honing in on the relationship with yourself. I'm not saying to cut every person off in your life, but what I am saying is to spend time alone.
Dedicate every single day you're going to spend an hour or two hours completely by yourself, and you could do whatever you want, whatever feels good to you, whatever fills your basket up. You could read a book, journal, work out, go for a walk, talk to yourself, knit, or whatever makes you feel good and makes you feel like you're spending time with yourself. It's important to be still and have an open dialogue with yourself and have a space away from everyone — from your partner, from your friends, from TV, from anything that's sending you a message — so that you can get to the root of rewiring your mind to just have your conscious thoughts. What are your actual thoughts?
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