When you go out on a date with someone and seemingly have a good time and later realize, slowly and painfully, that your date is not texting you as much or isn't eager to make plans with you as they were before the first date, your mind can start to wonder what it is you did wrong. And since the person is still in your life supposedly replying to texts or even meeting up with you on and off, you hold on even though it's confusing.
The person doing the fizzling could either be worried about hurting your feelings and is thinking they're letting you down easier or perhaps they're just selfish and want to keep you around until someone else comes along. It could also mean that they're bad at communicating and they're trying to avoid an uncomfortable conversation. Regardless of their intentions, fizzling hurts because it offers no closure nor an explanation. Therapist Rhian Kivits told Mirror U.K., "The human mind has a negative bias which means we often assume the worst in situations where we have no clear answers. With dating fizzling you may be left telling yourself that it must have happened because you weren't attractive enough, sexy enough or entertaining enough for the other person." Kivits added that on top of making someone feel worthless, "Fizzling can trigger insecure attachment behaviours, like grasping for attention or putting up with breadcrumbs."
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